Get REAL!
- Wendie Trubow, MD, MBA
- Apr 19, 2016
- 2 min read
I’m constantly floored by the generosity of the women I work with, since it can be really intimidating to tell the truth about what is stopping each of us.
I’ve been working with a woman we’ll call Margot, who wants to make a profound difference by contributing to others. Currently, she has a following only with her friends and family, but long term, she is interested in having a national presence.
We’ve been working together for awhile, and there always seems to be some, undefined “thing” in the way of her taking the powerful actions she needs to take. She’s extremely bright, and knows exactly what she needs to do, but has not been able to motivate herself, or get herself started.
On my end, it’s so frustrating! I see who she could be, and there is a big gap between what’s possible for her and where she currently is. And it’s impacting EVERYTHING in her life... her job, her relationship with her significant other, her relationship to her body, food, weight, family... you name it and it’s impacted!
Our conversations go something like this (every week):
Me: OK, Margot, you said you’d do “x” last week. Did you do it?
Margot: Well, not all of it, not really...
Me: OK, thanks for acknowledging that. What do you want to create this week?
Margot: I’d like to start exercising, but I’m totally not motivated. I mean, I get up early enough, I have the time to do it, but I just don’t do it.
Every week, we explore what the one small action item could be, and every week we acknowledge that the previous week’s item was not completed in full.
Finally, this week, we started talking about what might be stopping her, since obviously there’s something standing in her way, right?
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